Warming the Stone Child: Myths & Stories About Abandonment and the Unmothered Child - Clarissa Pinkola Estes, Ph.D. (Audio)

Estes tells several stories in Warming the Stone Child: Myths & Stories About Abandonment and the Unmothered Child that pertain to the orphan, abandoned, neglected, and "umothered" child. In Jungian analysis, all parts of a dream, fairy tale, or myth are really components of ourselves. We can re-write the ending and claim healing for ourselves by becoming our own Mother.
She recounts the English tale of the Stolen Woman Moon, Inuit fable of The Stone Child, Little Red Cap (which is an early version of Little Red Riding Hood), and other stories. She then talks about how, in Jungian analysis, all parts of a dream, fairy tale, or myth, are really components of ourselves. Estes also mentions that the fairy tales and stories we strongly identify with, especially as children, become a type of script for many of us--myths for our own life. If the story doesn't have a happy ending traditionally, we need to change the ending of how we want the "tale" to turn out in our own lives. Of all the stories in Warming the Stone Child, it was the last story that moved me the most, though. She shares that the story of the Lost Dog, which was her favorite growing up.

The lost dog goes wandering from house to house, looking for a home. The dog gets chased away, yelled at, and so on. No one wants to dog around, let alone make him a part of the family. The dog is so weary and feels so alone. He then sees a house at the end of the rail road tracks that has a light burning within. He says to himself in despair This is the last house that I will try. He scratches the door, and it opens. The house is filled with children that were having a birthday party, and they squeal in delight at the presence of the dog--thinking that he was a birthday present.

Oh, to be received as if you were a present instead of a scourge or a nuisance!

Since all elements of a story/myth are within, and parts, of ourselves, it comes back to becoming your own Mother. Your own welcoming party. Your own celebration. Your own guide, comforter, and nurturer.

If you have an internal wounded, abandoned, orphaned, or neglected child, realize that you can "grow your own Mother" inside. A partially burned piece of wood always has an ember inside, waiting for a wind to blow on it and coax it to become a flame once again. There is a part of you that can Mother--the child within. When we turn to our inner child, nurturing it and loving it, we heal the child, the inner Mother, and the other parts of ourselves, as well. One of the words for God in the Old Testament is El Shaddai, and in the Hebrew, this is a feminine word that literally means "Many-breasted One". There is a Mother heart of God, not matter which way you choose to connect with this Source or Divinity--or what you choose to call it. Something beyond us that is loving, nurturing, caring, and safe.

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